
Well, we've turned from Happy Hamster Hospice to mortuary. Our little guest is chillin' in our fridge until we can bring him up to my parent's house for a proper burial later today. Gus Gus went the way I'd love to go: he was active and full of life yesterday morning, and then peacefully passed a way by the time I came to feed him last night. Simple, not drawn out, and timely (he was an old man-in his 80's by hamster standards).
Rudy doesn't get death at all. "Dead" is in his vocabulary, mostly in relation to the myriad of dead worms he finds on the sidewalks in our daily wanderings around our condo complex. He equates death with sleep, though. He's always telling the worms to 'wake up!'
I've heard from tons of sources not to tell your kid someone went to sleep when they really died, 'cause of the confusion and anxiety around going to sleep it causes for the kid. I've always thought, "Duh! I'd never tell my kid that," but somehow, Rudy has told himself that. Both Jason and I have been trying to help Rudy understand that when something dies,(we haven't talked too much about people dying) it goes to Heaven and leaves it's body behind to help nourish the other living things on the earth. (Kind of a circle of life approach.) Maybe it's the fact that this kid is not even two yet, but the whole thing flies right over his head. Sigh. I might try helping him see that Gus Gus can't wake up, and see if he gets it a bit more with a living creature he has known in life and now death, but I don't know yet.
What if death is just to hard to understand, and all I end up doing is scaring Rudy that if he sleeps too long, we'll bury him in Oma's yard? Sigh. One of those first time mom moments, I guess. For now, I've avoided the whole issue by putting Rudy to bed and then having my sister come retrieve Gus Gus's cage and supplies so that he's just gone. (Except for his body with is between our orange juice and milk- I figured Heidi's roommates may never recover if they knew their food was sharing space with a dead rodent.) So far, Rudy hasn't questioned where Gus Gus went, so maybe I can choose to simple ignore the potential teaching opportunity and wait till Rudy's a bit older to try to tackle the concept of death with him.
**Update: I went the ignore route. Maybe when our next pet dies, or next time we find a dead bird or something. Maybe then I'll tackle death. In the mean time, I'll focus on the frenzy of life around me.***
As Gus Gus's time with us came to a close, a new beginning dawned. The orchid I bought off the clearance rack at Smith's Grocery store bloomed this morning. I bought her for $2.50, totally barren of any sign of a bud, let alone a bloom. (I personify my plants. It's a long standing tradition stemming from my childhood. Call you eccentric if you like, but I call my orchid Penelope.) :) My sweet Oma, who has been tending orchids with great care for several years, sent me home with some orchid food and a book all about caring for the exotic little guys. About 6 weeks later, I have this beauty to show for my efforts. (And the miracle of life, I suppose, since I could water and feed a rock with all diligence to no avail.)

It is exciting to see what color her blossoms are, and fun to have a new breathe of beauty in my living room.